This Is How You Heal After Letting Someone Go
SUNSHINE MILLER- May 8
- 2 min read
There comes a moment, often quiet and hard-earned, when you realize you’re ready.
Ready to move forward. Ready to stop re-reading old messages, replaying conversations in your head, or waiting for a text that won’t come.
Getting over someone you once cared about—whether it was a long relationship or a fleeting connection that hit deep—isn’t about forgetting them or pretending it didn’t matter. It’s about healing and coming home to yourself. If you’re reading this, maybe you’re at that place.
You’re ready and this How you heal.
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
Letting go of someone can feel like a loss, even if it was your choice. Give yourself permission to feel sad, angry, confused, or even relieved. Grieving is a process, not a sign of weakness. You’re not overreacting. You’re just human.
“Grief is just love with no place to go.” — Jamie Anderson
Whether it’s crying, journaling, or talking to a friend, express what’s inside rather than bottling it up.
2. Accept What Is
Acceptance doesn’t mean you liked how things ended or that it was fair—it means you’re choosing to acknowledge reality rather than fight it.The relationship, as it was, has run its course. Holding onto “what ifs” only drains you.This is where healing begins: when you stop rewriting the story and start turning the page.
3. Set Boundaries That Protect You
Distance is not cruelty—it’s clarity.Unfollowing, muting, or limiting contact (at least for a while) isn’t petty; it’s protection. You need space to breathe and refocus on yourself without constant reminders pulling you back.
4. Reconnect With Yourself
When you’ve given so much energy to another person, it’s easy to lose touch with who you are on your own. Now's the time to rediscover what lights you up:
Revisit hobbies you shelved
Spend time with friends who uplift you
Explore new interests or places
Reflect on what you’ve learned from the relationship
Your identity is bigger than one connection
5. Practice Self-Compassion
Healing isn’t linear. Some days, you’ll feel strong and clear-headed. Other days, a song or a memory will tug at your heart unexpectedly.That’s normal.Instead of judging yourself for “not being over it fast enough,” talk to yourself the way you’d comfort a friend.Gentleness speeds up healing far more than self-criticism ever could.
6. Look Forward With Hope
When the time is right, begin to envision the future. Not as a way to erase the past, but as a reminder that life keeps unfolding.There are still beautiful connections ahead, meaningful moments to experience, and joy waiting to meet you.
“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life.”
Final Thoughts: Healing Is an Act of Love
Getting over someone isn’t just about “moving on” — it’s about moving inward, It's about choosing yourself, your peace, and your growth.There’s no rush. No timeline.But when you’re ready—and it sounds like you are—know this:Healing is possible. And you’re already on your way.
